Best good friend
Over the weekend, as I was sitting in my home office, when my partner came in and said…
“You're my best good friend.”
I thought it was sweet and laughed (it's a line out of Forrest Gump). And my immediate reaction was to say the same thing back to him.
As I started to say it out loud, I actually stopped myself and said this instead…
“Actually, I am my own best good friend. You're my second best good friend.”
We tend to be good at judging ourselves. And critiquing ourselves.
But what about being a friend to ourselves?
I wasn't always able to be my own friend…
Actually, I was more like my own worst enemy.
I used to be really hard on myself.
I had perfectionist tendencies, and when things weren't “perfect” (which they never were!), I'd blame myself.
I couldn't separate what was right for me, versus what I should do to please and take care of others.
I was often indecisive because I spent so much time going back and forth, afraid about what others would think, and didn't trust myself enough to listen to my intuition.
Now that I've learnt to connect with and befriend myself…
I feel more joy, ease and gratitude in life and work, less stress and anxiety
I feel bold and powerful as myself, not scared or lacking
I value my opinions and don't just write them off as wrong
I have deeper, more fulfilling relationships because I know what nourishes me, and what doesn't
I EMBODY more courage, confidence and self trust in showing up authentically
I step into opportunities and say YES to possibilities, rather than say no and do nothing out of fear (ie. hiring an assistant to support the growth of my business and genuinely feeling so grateful and excited!)
Are you your own best good friend?
If not, can you gently explore why?
What can a relationship with yourself offer you?
If you're looking for guidance, support and ways in which you can start to build a friendship with yourself… you're invited to join my 3-week Connect Back to Self Foundations Program.
It's not a yoga course. Or a meditation course. Or a bunch of boring pre-recorded lectures on self love theory.
In the program we do sessions live and we PRACTICE. I share tools and guide you through different modalities to explore what it means to be your own friend.
You will practice mindfulness, visualizations, creative writing, breath work and be compassionately coached so that you can connect with yourself on the deeper levels of your being. Physical, mental, emotional, energetic -- all of it.
Self discovery can be both liberating and terrifying.
But you don't have to do it alone.
You'll have support from me and from a community of women around the world to make you realize that the fear is NORMAL, but also that you can change.
Check out the three modules we'll cover here >
Live sessions are on Sundays, 9am UK - 10am Germany - 3pm Vietnam - 4pm Hong Kong.
We start Sunday July 4th.
If this resonates with you and you're interested but also feeling more terrified than liberated at the possibilities of living your life with courage and authenticity… please feel free to e-mail me. I'm happy to support you in seeing if you're ready for this, or not.
The courage in my heart, sees the courage in your heart.