Instead of getting rid of your emotions, try this

Something that makes me literally cringe is when people say you need to “get rid of" your fear, anxiety, stress.

Why? 

Because 1) you don't “need” to do anything anyone says that doesn't feel right for you

and 2) the idea that we need to eliminate certain emotions makes NO SENSE and pushes us further away from our ability to be fully human

This rhetoric creates the conditioning and limiting belief that certain emotions are wrong and if we feel them, there is something wrong with us. 

So here's a #truthbomb for you:

Contrary to popular belief… 

Fear is not the enemy.

Anxiety is not the enemy.

Stress is not the enemy.

Uncomfortable emotions are not the enemy.

And if you feel scared, anxious, stressed, or have any uncomfortable strong emotions… congratulations, you are human!

Our job is not to get rid of these emotions from our lives.

Our job is to understand them.

To embrace them.

And ultimately, to accept and love ourselves even when (especially when) we are feeling uncomfortable.

When I stopped trying to numb and hide from my emotions… that's when I actually started to feel - on a deeper, cellular level - joy, ease, confidence, self trust, purpose and meaning.

This did not come from getting rid of my emotions.

But rather in the continuous practice of accepting my emotions, and myself, as I am.

And yes, you read that right… it is a continuous practice.

There are no pearly gates at the end of your journey where you live in a world with no emotions (this actually sounds like a boring kind of world!).

Accepting that we have the power to respond to our emotions, and not be controlled by them is powerful.

And accepting them as they are, without right or wrong, good or bad, becomes very liberating in how you live and create your life.

I recently led an online meditation + writing session to my community that focused on bringing compassionate awareness to emotions being held in the body.

It felt super powerful because we focused on COMPASSION AND ACCEPTANCE and not “getting rid of".

As psychologist Carl Rogers says, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself, just as I am, then I can change."

I truly believe that these two things are necessary for our journey of embodying deep self trust and unapologetically owning our authenticity.

SO FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER, I'm offering an opportunity for non-members to access the recording of the practice.

Get unlimited access to it for only $19 USD.

If you have any questions or technical issues, please feel free to email me. I'm here to support you.

With ease,

Victoria